my mom hates my tattoos?

Question

I'm a 23 year old female and got my first tattoo at the age of 19. I have wanted/been fascinated by tattoos since I was little. I have one small one on my hip, medium sized on my wrist and a full chest piece. My dad is fine with it, even said they were pretty. My mom makes snide comments every now and then but I try to ignore them..that was until I got my chest piece finished ( I only had it halfway finished for a year) I got it over a week ago and she hadn't really said alot about it until yesterday I came over and she started asking me if I had mental illness or an addiction problem with tattoos and saying she has never seen a person with as many tattoos as I have (many of my friends are equally or more inked up than I am and she has met them, they are my bridesmaids!!!) She went on to tell me I could never get a good job (I am HAPPY being a hairstylist, I have a love and passion for it and its a career that welcomes tattoos) and told me that when I'm old I will be ugly and hate myself etc.

it really hurts that she has to say things like that to me and I don't know what to do now. I know she doesn't like them but to try and tell me that I have a mental problem or an addiction problem and act like I really didn't think about all the consequences of the future just really hurt me.

I don't know what to say to her I just cried and left.

I like my tattoos but I don't want my mother to be eternally looking down on me and thinking I have some crazy problems!


do you think that she will get over it?

(And please no comments about tattoos being trashy/ugly/stupid because I have heard it all and I am aware that some people think that.

Answer 1

well, honestly, its because your her daughter. there really isnt much more too it. im a girl with pretty sizeable tattoos under each of my collarbones and my mom gave me THE worst look when she first saw them. but, oddly, earlier this month i stood up in a friends wedding, tattoos on full display, and a couple of the other bridesmaids had visable tattoos as well, and since then, she hasnt said anything about them. i think she may have realized that i got something tasteful that will look good whether im wearing a t-shirt or a fancy dress, and that work doesnt care about them because its not like im wearing shirts that are low cut or whatever enough to show them off.



in your case tho, i dont know. like, i really do think its just because your her daughter. the fact that she doesnt seem to be up in arms over your equally or more inked friends kinda shows that. do any of your other female friends have chest pieces? or did this all really just start to come to a head when you got yours?