How can I stop my brother from getting his child tattooed?

Question

My older brother who is 27 has a 4 year old little girl. My brother told me that he is getting my niece a tattoo on her ankle, that will match the one he has on his arm. He thinks that it will be nice to have matching tattoos. The tattoo is suppose to memorialize the mother of my niece who passed away days before she and my brother were supposed to get married a few years ago. This sounds insane to me. I told him that he can't do this, but he's saying that it's his choice. I talked to my father about this and he's telling me that there's nothing that I can do about it.

This obviously not legal but my brother has a friend who will do it for free. He says that it's being done by the end of the week. And invited me to come along for moral support. I can't believe that someone has agreed to tattoo a 4 year old! Also, my brother is saying that he is going to give my niece something to make her sleep so that she won't move around while the procedure is being done. I don't know what I'm supposed to do. All my brother is thinking about is how nice this will be for the memory of the woman he loved, who he has not done well grieving over. I don't want to call the police or anything. He would never forgive me. But no one else is trying to stop it. If I called the authorities on him, my brother may never let me see my niece again.

Answer 1

He and or you should have a chat with his daughter about it and see if she wants the tattoo or not. If he actually goes through with it with out his daughter's consent, then call the police or child protection services.

No one in their right mind would even think about getting a tattoo for a 4 year old. Also most 4 year old kids probably don't know what a tattoo really is or what goes into getting one, or how to take care of it properly.

Answer 2

If this is true, you need to get all the info you can about who he found that is willing to tattoo a 4 year old and have a nice long chat with child protective services about the situation.



Like, I'm not one of those people who wants to call child protective services about every little thing. But this is ridiculous, and he's a ******* terrible parent if any part of him thinks that this is okay

Answer 3

Having a friend do it almost sounds worse! No reputable artist would tattoo a 4 year old, let alone do it for 'free'. Anyone who says they can do it for free is likely unlicensed, meaning they don't have a real shop or proper equipment. Not only is it likely to become horribly infected from the lack of care put into the tattoo, but there's absolutely no way a 4 year old could properly care for it afterwards. Giving her something to help her sleep through it could make it all worse.



I know you don't want to, but yes. You need to get the authorities involved. If not on your brother, then on the tattooist.

Answer 4

This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. You don't tattoo infants, yet alone teenagers. I won't even do anyone under 18 just because of the hassles involved, but here we're talking about a 4-year old. Sorry, that's so completely idiotic. Tell your idiot brother that you will call the police or protective services if he's so adamant about this. wow, moronic.

Answer 5

Think about what's best for your niece, not necessarily you or your brother. How is your niece going to feel when she's older and realizes she was assaulted by her own father? You need to call child protective services and stop this atrocity from happening.



Your brother obviously has some mental problems going on if he could ever justify drugging and tattooing a 4 year old child. He needs help, your niece needs help, and by the sounds of it you are the only level headed one who can get the help both of them desperately need.

Answer 6

A lot of adults cannot take the pain of tattoing, so I don't know how a 4 year old would. Most legal tattoo parlours, who don't want to lose their licence, would not do it.



Tell him he can get a necklace matching the tattoo for her instead.

Answer 7

Call child protective services or the police immediately!

Answer 8

Call the police and report them. This is all sort of illegal, and because you know about it you need to report it to the people who can stop it.

Answer 9

I'm pretty sure tattooing a 4 year old is illegal.



edit: WHAT PART OF ILLEGAL DIDN'T YOU UNDERSTAND? LAST I CHECKED, GETTING A FRIEND TO DO SOMETHING DOESN'T MAKE IT SUDDENLY IN-ACTIONABLE.....I guess YOU didn't attend elementary school...

Answer 10

Did he already do it? If he does do it, her pediatrician or one of her teachers will absolutely see it at some point and report him to CPS or the police. Perhaps if you explain this to him he will change his mind.

Answer 11

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